PART-IV: An impact-full interpretation of defense daughter
"Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth".
We flaunt our army background a lot which is why we may seem proud or bratty .But I think as Army kids ,we're raised to be really independent ;you don't see your dad around much and your mum is holding the family together and it's almost like she's a single mum. We're two kids and our dad always made us carry our own bags ..I was never treated like a dainty girl and was raised tough (though after retirement I became his princess though) .As defense brat I would not have traded my life for anything else. I loved the nomadic life, the uncertainty of the next posting, the excitement of packing and moving to a guest room for that period, shedding tears for friends who knew we’d never meet again, and then the unpacking and settling down at another station, making new friends, and going to a new school. I interacted with people from diverse cultures and ethnicity which helped me broaden my perspectives.
Being in defense family we have been leading a disciplined life with ecstasy and we were never raised to be sluggish. Time limits had to be strictly adhered to. There are fun moments, too. Defense daughters for sure are all-rounders whether it’s academics, sports, co-curricular activities and they have a very outgoing personality .I know how to dance the waltz, the foxtrot and the jive. I know how to work my way through a seven-course meal. I have been travelling alone from grade 7th and I’m not afraid to travel to any part of the world and it’s all because I grew up as an army brat.
These two people in my life have set pretty high standards on men in my life and they are far matured enough in dealing with any arduous situations and I certainly imagine the third person in my life to be someone who can at least resemble up-to certain extent .Defense daughters are not flattered by the compliments showered by men but instead a person’s straight forwardness ,open communication, enthusiasm towards his/her ambitions ,core values makes them decide what kind of a person he/she is and it has a lot to do with the way they respect our country and treat women. We’d rather be honest than impressive:) and yes I will never lower my standards or adjust to find a right one.
If we shield ourselves from all feedback ,we stop growing .If we engage with all feedback ,regardless of the quality and intention ,it hurts too much and we will ultimately armor up by pretending it doesn't hurt ,we'll disconnect from vulnerability and emotion so fully that we stop feeling hurt.
When I look at these brave soldiers I feel "vulnerability is the emotion that we experience during times of uncertainty ,risk and emotional exposure .
All too often our so called strength comes from fear, not love: instead of having a strong back .I believe it comes about when we can be truly transparent seeing the world clearly and letting the world see into us.
It’s my life instances (experiences) which made me the person I am.
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